Criticism from others can be hard to take, especially if it’s unfair.

Unfair criticism is the most dangerous type of criticism because it can affect your self-esteem, pride, and health.

It all depends on your personality, though. Some people can easily ignore criticism and forget about it in a few minutes, while others dwell on it and can spend a few days overthinking the words and crying before they calm down.

Constructive criticism is a lot better than an unfair one, but it still hurts even if you know they tell the truth.

Accepting constructive criticism graciously is the art that not everyone can master.

I personally have trouble dealing with negative feedback. I’m a highly sensitive person so the words of critique affect not only my pride but my soul too.

I’m sure, I’m not alone. There are many other sensitive personalities that struggle with criticism the way I do. But rather than react with tears, frustration, defensiveness or anger, I handle it calmly and professionally.

Check out some tips and tricks on how to cope with all types of criticism without damaging your self-esteem below.

 

Is that person important to you?

That’s a question you should ask yourself every time someone delivers you the criticism. If you don’t value the opinion of that person or they are unfamiliar to you, remind yourself of that before worrying about their words.

If that person is your boss, family member, or significant other, try to find wisdom in their words.

If their criticism is unfair, try to forgive them. Don’t hold grudges. Negative feelings and emotions will do nothing but hurt your physical and mental health.

 

Look at criticism as a chance to grow

This one is easier said than done. But just like failures and mistakes help you grow, criticism can help you become the best version of yourself.

Looking at criticism as a chance to grow means accepting your weaknesses and working on turning them into strengths. Remember, you are the only one who decides how to react.

You can choose to feel depressed or offended, or you can simply take advantage of those words to improve yourself. Gratitude attitude is one of the most powerful ways to deal with any type of criticism.

 

Don’t react at all

Stop reacting as soon as you hear the first words of critique. Just don’t listen. Pretend that you are listening to them, but think about some positive things.

While this is not the smartest way to handle criticism, it can help you save your nerves, and keep your self-esteem and mood high.

Use this method during the hard times when the last thing you want to handle is criticism and fill your day with anger and disappointment.

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Externalize criticism

Are you sure criticism is directed at you personally?

Maybe it’s directed to the whole team or family. Or maybe the person that delivers you the criticism is simply in a bad mood.

Many bosses snap at their employees when they don’t actually mean to. Take criticism objectively and don’t try to cope with unhelpful criticism. Otherwise, you can end up feeling exhausted and stressed out.

Believe in what you do, and be confident about yourself.

 

Ask questions to figure out the root of criticism

Instead of swallowing your resentment, make bold to ask questions to find out the root of words of critique.

Whether it’s your boss or neighbor, feel free to share your perspective. Try to understand whether this is hatred, an isolated issue, or something that you have never thought about.

I used to run away from solving the feedback issues until I realized that hiding isn’t an option. It’s better to ask calmly for further explanation and know what the reasons are than spend hours playing guessing games.

 

Give yourself a break

Don’t respond and ask questions when you are not calm. When I’m not sure that I’m calm, I avoid talking to anyone. I take time to calm myself down first.

I think feedback over, and only then come back to the conversation. If you are in the same boat, give yourself a break. Speak in a friendly tone to reduce the tension and solve the problem.

 

Look at the content of criticism and realize that you can’t please anyone

If you are sure that the words of critique are biased and the person who delivered them is stubborn and toxic, don’t try to prove you are right. Sometimes you need to just allow some people to express their opinions so that they feel better.

If you hold a high position in the company, your managers and coworkers may criticize you because of jealousy. The higher you climb; the more ill-wishers you gain.

So be prepared to deal with negative and biased feedback on a daily basis.

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Express gratitude

I remember the situation where my boss criticized me for nothing – he simply was in a bad mood – know what I did? I looked him in the eyes and said, ‘Thank you for your fair feedback.’ Of course, he knew he wasn’t right, but I let him know about it in a kind manner.

If you don’t like conflicts, express gratitude instead. Do it genuinely. Even if they don’t notice it. You’ll at least know that you are smarter than they are in this exact situation.

 

Realize that they are just critical people

Some people are critical by nature.

They won’t fall asleep until they criticize someone. They literally criticize everything and everyone regardless of anything. Consider it as a serious disease and don’t take their feedback too seriously.

Do you get offended when a sick person says hurtful words to you? Probably, no, right? The same goes for critical people. They need help because they are truly sick.

 

Learn not to sweat the small stuff

If you have a critical boss who gives negative feedback on a regular basis, you will gradually get used to it and stop sweating the small stuff.

It doesn’t matter that your boss thinks when you are 2 minutes late to work, or when you make little mistakes in your projects. Critical employers make bossy bosses so you can either quit your job or stay and prove that you are a pro at what you do.

 

Dealing with criticism and negative feedback you get from others isn’t easy, especially if you are an introverted and highly sensitive person.

Remember you have a choice about how to handle it. You can get depressed or get inspired to become the best version of yourself and show them how awesome you are.

Push yourself to be more positive about negative feedback. This way, you will keep stress in check and get yourself out of the bad mood.

I used to be so defensive when someone criticized me that I lost control over my emotions. I couldn’t handle any negative feedback. Luckily, I’ve learned how to welcome criticism and reap all the good benefits from it.

I choose peace of mind instead of a fight. I recommend you to do the same. Imagine how negative reactions make you look – gloomy, angry, and unhappy. Do you want others to see you that way? Take it easy.

 

Now it’s your turn to share your tips and tricks for dealing with criticism and negative feedback. Who knows, you may be helping others without even knowing it.