Our expectations were instilled in us at a young age. We expected that the bad guy always got caught and the good guy always prevailed. We expected to reach our goals. We expected to meet the man/woman of our dreams and settle down.
Maybe it’s the series of movies (and shows) that portray life as such or maybe it’s just the values we grew up with, but these expectations along with others have always been prominent.
While it’s not a terrible idea to try and live up to these expectations, to always abide by them is a myth. The good guy might not always win, the goals we set might not be met, and the person we thought was our one and only might not be our soulmate after all.
Although the realization might hurt, it’s to be expected. There will be times when not all your expectations are met and that’s okay. Below are a series of expectations that will, sadly, not always be lived up to. And if you’re abiding by these expectations, chances are you’re doing more harm than good.
I Should Be Liked By Everyone. There will always be someone out there who doesn’t like you. Maybe it’s because they don’t like your attitude or your work ethic or maybe something as minuscule as your hair style. Whatever the case may be, they don’t like you. And at first maybe it bothered you and maybe it still does, but it really shouldn’t and I’ll tell you why.
You will never be able to please everyone. No matter how hard you try, there will always be that one person who’s dissatisfied with everything. And that’s perfectly okay. But what’s not okay is trying to live up to the expectations of others. You will decrease your happiness and increase your stress levels wondering about what you could do to better yourself for someone else’s standards.
I’m Always Right. No, you’re not. No one is right 100% of the time. You might be right sometimes but not always, which is perfectly fine. There’s nothing wrong with being wrong, everyone is at one point in their life.
You can’t expect to be right all the time. You also can’t expect people to agree with you when you’re wrong. It just doesn’t work like that. What you can do is take being wrong in stride with your head up and move on.
I Need Things To Make Me Happy. Sorry, but that’s a negative. According to Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, humans need the following basic items to fulfill their physiological needs: food, water, shelter, warmth, and rest. If you have three or more of these items, you’ve already met the standards. There’s nothing that mentions having the latest cellphone or the flashiest car or the biggest house. We want these things, but don’t necessarily need them.
The pressure to waste money on lavish items that are excessive and unnecessary is imminent in today’s society. You’re expected to have these super amazing items in order to mold into society’s standards of having a high level of importance, which is one expectancy you should really stray away from.
Items are items. They are temporary things that humans give value to that will eventually break, tear, rip, or fade. Just like the “super popular” items before them, they’ll entertain you for a while until your entertainment starts to decrease and you move on to the next best thing.
I Should Have It Fair. There a plethora of things that should be a certain way but never will be. It’s just the way of life. And along the way, you’ll notice that some people manage to get away with certain actions you’d never be able to get away with.
Where as you might get terminated from your position, the other person just gets a slap on the wrist. Or maybe, you’ll see actions that make you want to yell that’s not fair. For example, watching someone who’s been working there for less than a year get the promotion you wanted.
Whatever the case may be, it’ll make you think that life should be fair. It really should, but it’s not. It probably never will be.
Don’t expect life to be fair because it won’t, no matter how much you wish it would and that’s okay. It’s okay because it’ll help teach you lessons about life and better understand the world. Of course, it’s going to be frustrating, just like all things when we don’t get our way; however, this will also help motivate you even further.
You want to live up to these great expectations and it’s great that you’ve set standards for yourself. But living up to some of these expectations isn’t always feasible. Some of these standards will do you more harm then good, complicating your way of life even more. It’s best to let some of these expectations go in order to live a happy, fuller life.